Sunday, September 30, 2007 1:57:00 AM
Complaining, crying or being depressed won't solve the problem
i am giving you all the suggestions here but if you continue to feel hurt and care about you being hurt only and not thinking about how to fix it, nothing will happen.
Action speaks louder than words. if you can't stnad it, then change it!
you were lost and didn't know what to do, so i am telling you what to do.
so make up your mind and to it!whether you want to fix it or put an end to all the depression and tears..it's really up to you!do something!
Stop complaining and making comments, and they are negative ones. you can only be sure if you do something..
these are the answers you want to find out, so find them out!!
the only way is to talk things out, the 2 of you are severly lacking in communication.. so the best way is to communicate face to face, make everything clear!
Remind you, the value doesn't equal to how muc he cares for a person.
don't you realise you are always doubting and thinking the negative way? of all things you must take it the bad way..why must you always dig the neagtive part of things? and then making yourself sad and depressed.. of all possibilities you think for the worst, and then you make yourself sad, why do you have to do that??
Come on, you are way better than this. This is not you!
why should you give up for something that you care so much about?
the only thing i am trying to get you doing is to see if things will work out by taking actions.
you'll never know what lies ahead..i am telling you to do things to see if he is worth being with.
i am telling you to set things up and give yourself a chance to see if things will change.
if you think you can decide straight away without finding out the answer you seek and taking the risk of loosing all the chances you may have to be someone you once loves so much. your stuff! i don't know..make a wise choice..yes i can't say i am the right one!but i believe i am telling you the right things..at least i believe and i can give you a full explaination.
Save the sorry to yourself! i am sorry for you..i hope you'll understand what i am trying to tell you. i am trying my best to help you..but it's up to you whether to accept the help.
i think you are just being too sensitive..I really think you should be fair here..if you take buying gifts for friends as being disloyal. then i think you are over reacting.
and apart from that, to be honest, the 2 of you now are currently on a status of best friend. which means he's all the rights to interact with other females. i am NOT saying he should be doing this. i am not saying he should be buying gifts for other females. but i am telling you not to over react,all you are doing is adding stress to yourself, and cause more depression, and making more people worried.
it is true that he should be more sensitive and try and understand how you feel if he buys things for other girls.but he is on straight forward guy and does not take so many things into consideration. and base on the fact that we both know he has no intention of hurting you. i think you should not make this a big deal.
try to make things simple, and communicate with simple and direct phrases..it will be much better for you.
interaction with other females does not equal to disloyalty at all. a guy can interact with many girls but love only the one that matters to him.you can't think of it in such a narrow way. and remember, when you first mentioned about breaking up, you damaged his confidence. and therefore he might be afraid to be with you as well. perhaps not as much, but there is.
just remember,interaction with other girls, including buying things and smsing. DOES NOT equal to not loving you. you can't think of it that way, it's just not fair and selfish!
i understand that at this moment you feel threatend with other girls closing in.that't normal.
take it or leave it...
i didn't say he have no wrong doing, no one is right or wrong here..relationship takes both side.